There is a major confusion among christians on the difference between loving your neighbor and enabling them. We chide ourselves for being selfish when we feel annoyed at the friend calling us to help yet again, we believe that we should be self-sacrificing with our time and say yes to everything and everyone who needs us.
Some may question why I let myself venture so far away from my beliefs and place myself in such a difficult predicament? Truth is I was searching for love in all the wrong places.
Within one week of marriage he was going out to concerts with women that I didn’t know and drinking himself so silly that I wouldn’t hear from him for almost a 24 hour time period.
I felt tired that night. Tired, but excited for what was to come. You see, I love to dance, and I travelled 30 miles all the way to a little country line-dancing joint just to feel the music and the dance floor, and to get some much-needed boot stomping out of my system.
Many self-help books lend to the idea that humans are an empty or leaky cup that gets filled up once our needs are met by others.
A lot of us are unique in certain ways that make us feel isolated. The list goes on where people get their insecurities, but why can’t we learn to accept them?
And I, in my abrupt moment of scholarly daydreams chose to be a part of this world, surrounding myself with people who worship the works of Ernest Hemingway and the awareness of social movements, having no shame in the female #nipple. No shame in cursing or using pornography for artistic purposes. No shame.
Gradually, Proverbs 31 went from being a source of comfort to a source of shame, confusion, and resentment. I started viewing the standards therein as antiquated and unrealistic.
The thing I loved about this remake is that both Prince Kit and Cinderella asked each other to take the other just as they were.
Insecurity comes in many different masks. It isn’t just the person who is quiet, timid and passive. I have struggled with insecurity in various aspects of my life and it has held me back from being the force I was designed to be.