10 Promises to Gain From A Lost Dream

In Devotions, Inspiration by Kristen Dalton Wolfe1 Comment


This past weekend my sister Julia represented North Carolina in the Miss USA pageant. She had prepared, planned and dreamed of being Miss USA since she was a young girl. Every year she watched the telecast and felt inspired by the confidence of the women. Miss USAs were her role models and she took something from each one of them to help guide and grow her aspirations and character in hopes of joining the sisterhood of becoming a national role model one day too.

But that isn’t what happened. Her precious heart and little girl’s dream was shattered when she wasn’t called into the top 15 on Sunday night.

You may have also experienced what it feels like to a have had a dream that seemed like it was your destiny, but then it wasn’t.

When you have envisioned a moment, planned for something and have done everything in your power to give the dream your best, the sudden loss can be traumatic, debilitating and consuming. A broken dream can leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, confused and betrayed by God.

I even asked the Lord, “Why did you infuse this dream so intensely within her only to take it away leaving her humiliated and broken-hearted? Why?”

On my flight home, I sat on the plane crying and journaling my lament to God. I asked Him to please reveal his plan to Julia quickly and to give her a new hope. I began to make a list of all the verses that would encourage her that the Lord is still her loving and redeeming Father. Then I thought of all the dreams and hearts that are broken everyday. I decided to share with you what God revealed to me to help Julia. I hope they encourage you.

Here are 10 Promises To Gain From A Lost Dream:

1. Crown of Life

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. James 1:12

Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 1 Cor 9:25
2. Deeper understanding of God and His ways

Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things you have not known. Jeremiah 33:3

It is God’s privilege to conceal things and the king’s privilege to discover them. Proverbs 25:2


3. Character refinement to prepare you for a greater task

We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18


4. Compassion and a Compelling Story that has the power to heal others
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Every valley shall be lifted and filled up, and every mountain and hill shall be made low; and the crooked and uneven shall be made straight and level, and the rough places a plain.
And the glory (majesty and splendor) of the Lord shall be revealed, and all people  shall see it together; for the mouth of the Lord has spoken it. Isaiah 40:4-5


5. New hope for a new future

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31


6. Redemption

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. Genesis 50:20

All things work together for the good of those who love him. Romans 8:28.

To provide for those who grieve in Zion– to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor.  Isaiah 61:3


7. Comfort from Heaven 

He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away. Revelation 21:4

Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation? Hebrews 1:14


7. Being equipped for your destiny

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He also has planted eternity in our hearts and minds [a divinely implanted sense of a purpose working through the ages which nothing under the sun but God alone can satisfy]. Ecclesiastes 3:11


8. Renewed understanding that your validation comes from the Lord, not people

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10

In that day the LORD Almighty will be a glorious crown, a beautiful wreath for the remnant of his people. Isaiah 28:5


9. New Direction 

 Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43: 18-19

And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” Revelation 21:5


10. Deeper relationship and intimacy with God 

But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many. 2 Cor 1:9-11

But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew human nature. John 2:24

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own insight. Proverbs 3:5


Broken dreams and hearts are beyond painful, especially when we don’t understand them and feel lonely in our grief. But the Lord knows exactly what he is doing. You are allowed to feel anger and to confess your feelings and lamentations to Him. But remember, He knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb and set you apart for His good pleasure. Ephesians 1:11 says. “In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will.”


Your citizenship is in Heaven and your lot is secure. Trust Him even when you don’t understand. No one loves you like your Father and He has the power to redeem, protect, heal and elevate you.

  Visiting with her in rehearsals.

If this message blessed you, be a blessing by sharing with others. 


  1. elsy

    Dear Kristen,

    Thank you so much for this message. It spoke to my heart and reminded me that God is still working for my good. I had a shattered dream of wanting to go into Medschool and becoming a doctor. I came close to getting in but never made it. I was angry with God and I did not understand as it felt that he was not there to help me. I am still figuring out what is his plan for my life. so far, I have not been disappointed at the priceless opportunities I have gotten along the journey of discovery.
    Sometimes I have periods when I feel like my God is not there but I realised he is teaching me something beautiful. Jesus has given me a new bike! Just like riding a bicycle for the very first time, when everything is fine he is holding my bike whilst I’m pedalling and when trouble, challenges and setbacks are in my journey that is when he has let go of the bike. Sometimes I fall, sometimes I cry out for him to hold me again. The only way I can learn to ride on this new bike is when I’ll have complete trust in Jesus and the bike he’s given me. so that, whatever comes my way I will remember that he’ll never leave me nor forsake me. So to anyone reading this, Keep pedalling, don’t get off your new bike! It will take you places you’d never dream!

Leave a Comment