In the months leading up to Miss USA, I wasn’t on the pageant critics’ radar or winner prediction lists. I do however remember being called, “plain, vanilla, ordinary, not that pretty, and big-nosed.” I was told that I wasn’t “supposed” to win Miss USA, but that I showed up that night and “sparkled.” I wasn’t the most beautiful or most hyped, but I apparently had what I now call “The Sparkle Effect.”
Since winning 6 years ago, I’ve been able to sit on several judges panels and see first hand that it’s true. There is always a radiant girl who rises to the top by the end of the night, and she is the one who sparkles. It’s a gleam in her eyes and in her smile. Her aura seems to glow. You can’t help but to be drawn to her, something about her is captivating and warm. You can’t really put your finger on what that sparkle is all about.
Pageant competitors spend a lot of money for a winning wardrobe, to learn how to do their hair and makeup, modeling coaches and glamourous headshots. But the sparkle effect has been left undefined, up to the girl to “turn it on” when she’s onstage.
In the same way, the “fake it til you make it” strategy will only get you so far. A true winner in life has that sparkle about her all the time; whether she is performing or serving, whether the lights are on her or she is picking up someone else’s trash. But what is it? How does one get it? Can anyone have it or is just for certain people?
I have spent the last few months reflecting on what is beneath all that sparkle. It turns outs, the formula all starts with God and is rooted in the bible.
A sparkling essence is beautiful and attainable. I’m so passionate about every girl radiating that the next 30 days will be dedicated to hilighting each quality and breaking it down with prayer so it’s achievable through God.
Here are the 30 aspects that make up the The Sparkle Effect.
1. Make a decision: Decide what your dream is. (Job 22:28)
2. Believe you are worthy of your dream. (Proverbs 31:10)
3. Set yourself apart by setting standards for your life and don’t compromise. (1 Peter 2:9)
4. Think like a queen (Romans 12:2)
5. Talk like a queen (Proverbs 18:21)
6. Decide to rise above your past (Isaiah 43:19)
7. Be refined through failure, don’t let it keep you down. (Philippians 3:14)
8. The source of your confidence is Christ. (2 Corinthians 3:4)
9. Compare yourself with the best version of yourself, not others. (Galatians 6:4)
10. Let peace replace your jealousy. (Proverbs 13:4)
11. Keeping God the center of your life and spending time in worship. (Proverbs 3:6)
12. Staying humble is thinking of yourself less, not thinking less of yourself. (Proverbs 16:18)
13. Wise stewardship of your talents and blessings. (Matthew 25: 15-17)
14. Deep gratitude of all the people and even tiniest gifts in your life. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
15. Pure motives of the heart. Your agenda is God’s agenda. (Proverbs 16:2)
16. Your obedience in following God’s voice even when it’s uncomfortable. (John 14:23)
17. Making choices to enhance your destiny and relationship with God, instead of compromising them. (Matthew 7:13)
18. Your walk. What you do on a daily basis refines your character and shows what you are really ready for. (Matthew 6:18)
19. Your influence. Are you being the light of the world you were created to be for all the people who need an example and inspiration to follow? Yes, people are watching you even when you don’t think they are. (1 Corinthians 8:9)
20. Your faith. Letting your faith be bigger than your fear is when magic happens. (Mark 5:36)
21. Your reputation. It’s more important to be respected than to be liked. (Proverbs 22:1)
22. Your relationships. Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you and that you pour into as well. (Proverbs 27:17)
23. Your health. Your body should be managed like a sacred temple that houses the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:19)
24. Your purity. Those who are pure in heart shall see God. (Matthew 5:8)
25. Your wisdom. Seek advice and accept instruction, for in the end you will be wise. (Proverbs 19:20)
26. Your resources. Using your resources creatively when you don’t have the money. (Philippians 4:19)
27. Your discipline. When you’re not training, someone else is. (2 Timothy 1:7)
28. Your prayer life. Prayer is powerful and connects you with God’s voice, guidance and love. (James 5:16)
29. How you treat others. Our ultimate command is to love God and love people. Loving others well makes us God imitators which mainfests in radiance. (Mark 12:30-31)
30. Your childlike wonder. No matter what you have gone through, never let it harden you or take away your wonder for what God is doing. (Matthew 18:3)
A woman who sparkles through her eyes has a love for God, decides to rise, is true to who she is, never wavers amidst pressure, and knows she is worthy of her dreams.
She may not have the best past or circumstances by the world’s standards, but she is confident that God will bless her when she honors Him and herself.
When you seek first the kingdom, you will sparkle too.
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