5 Ways To Have a Powerful Relationship with You

In Love by Kristen Dalton Wolfe1 Comment


Everything flows from the relationship you have with yourself. It’s part of the reason I am so obsessed with relationships, they reflect a lot about a person. We live in a society that doesn’t exactly groom a culture of self-love because there is such a focus on competition and comparison. Sometimes, it can be hard to even know where our authentic self and false confidence begins and ends. So I created 5 easy ways to be keep ourselves in check with our self-relationships.

Eyes: How do you see yourself when you look in the mirror? What do you see in the reflection? The way you see yourself determines how others see you, but we make the mistake of allowing other people’s opinions define our self-view. We give other people way too much power to have an impact on us. The only person who has any authority to define your self-worth is your Creator and He says that he says that you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Don’t live passively letting other people have control over your reflection in the mirror. Take the reigns back and put on the God lens, then you will see that you are more than worthy and more than enough.

Mind: What does your thought life look like? We have an average of 30,000 thoughts a day and 84-92% of them are negative and/or in the past. 40% of our thoughts are habitual, meaning we have created thought patterns throughout our life. The good thing is, we get to create new ones that actually can serve us powerfully. But first, we need to start paying attention to the thoughts we are currently allowing to float in and dwell. Where do they come from? What is the type of the thought? Is it a pattern? Is it serving you or hurting you? You will be amazed at the revelations you have about how your past has shaped your beliefs that now affects your thought life. Start to be intentional about recognizing a thought that is toxic, acknowledging it, and replacing it with a Godly truth. That is what I call, the power of the transformed mind.

Mouth: Scripture says that the power of life and death is in the words we speak. The things you speak out and call out carry more impact that we realize. We are a product of the thoughts and words we speak over ourselves. If you tell yourself that people never like you, that you are always overlooked or that you aren’t meant to have friends, then that is exactly what will manifest. Whatever you say about yourself is true. I made the mistake of believing that if I downplayed my talents, gifts and beauty, that other girls would feel more comfortable. But, that is a lie. Walking in confidence releases other people to walk in confidence too. So be your own cheerleader, not your own bully. Whatever you would want other people to say to you, YOU say to you.

Hands: When your identity is in place between your eyes, mind and mouth, then your destiny should flow naturally from your hands. As hard as it is to see sometimes, we each have a unique purpose and call on your life. It doesn’t look like anyone else’s and that is why we can’t waste our time comparing our dream to the next girl. Comparison is competing in a race you were never meant to be in. Don’t make the mistake of waiting until you meet your “other half” to get your life going. Be whole, a full cup, then when you meet your husband, your cups can overflow with big dreaming and healed identity together. Live your passion on purpose now. What you do now defines the course of the rest of your life.

Body: Your body is a vessel that carries the treasure of God. It’s not only that, but it is a divine creation, made perfectly to carry out the destiny placed on your life. Excessive drinking, smoking, drugs, casual sex, physical inactivity and unhealthy eating is not honoring the body God designed. When you take an assessment of how you treat your body, what does it look like? If you are harming yourself, what is the reason? We train other people how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves, are you self-sabotaging because you believe you are unworthy of worthy treatment? If you are, realize you aren’t alone and we all have ways of punishing ourselves when we don’t think we are good enough. Believe me, I have been there myself and it took my a while to realize I was hurting myself through a bad diet because I subconsciously didn’t believe I deserved better.

Honor the divine being you are. You are an expression of the God of the Universe. You started out as God’s perfect, flawless idea in the heavens. That is why he breathed your being into life, complete with plans to prosper you, plans for hope and a future. Pick today to re-define the relationship with yourself. You get to choose what it looks like, so go ahead and make it epic.

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  1. I would absolutely love to have you as a life couching! Ypu’re amazing, this post will help me a LOT! Thank you very much, may God bless you.

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