Four Ways To Manage Your Influence

In Devotions, Inspiration by Kristen Dalton Wolfe1 Comment


You are an influencer. The question is, how are you stewarding your influence? People are watching you even when you don’t think they are. (1 Corinthians 8:9)

You are God’s princess. You are royalty. When you become a daughter in God’s Kingdom, you  immediately become an influencer. You are a representative of Christ and the Kingdom of beauty, light, truth and reconciliation.

His Princess is always aware that she could be impacting someone’s life. She holds herself to high standards in the way she dresses, speaks and behaves for the sake of her own honor and for the sake of those younger girls who are seeking a role-model.

God is an identity changer. He changed the name of Jacob (deceiver) to Israel (May God prevail) and Abram (High father) to Abraham (father of multitude of nations). When you accept Christ, He changes your name, too.  Christian means “Christ follower” and Christ means “the chosen one; the anointed one.” You are chosen and transformed into a Christ imitator. You may be the only example of Christ a person will ever see. When people encounter you, do they experience a preview of Jesus?

Our lives are not to be taken lightly. God knew exactly when you would receive Him as Your Savior and how it would transform your life. Now it’s time to be a walking example in your daily life of what Jesus looks like.

You have influence and the way you manage it matters.

So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” 2 Corinthians 5:20 NLT

We are ambassadors for the Kingdom of God and have the great responsibility of being the light of the world.

We have influence in any realm we are in, whether we are stay-at-home mothers, students, entrepreneurs, in ministry or in the corporate world.

Lives can literally be changed through social media, negatively or positively.  Here are aspects to look at in stewarding our influence well.

1. Photos you post: What messages do your photos send your followers? Are they honoring of yourself and other women? Do they promote purity and dignity? As a model, I used to have no problem posting swimwear or lingerie photos. But the closer I draw to God, the more convicted I am that posting them doesn’t reflect the heart of God. Personally, I feel that certain types of these photos can send mixed messages to my followers. If you’re debating on whether you should post a photo, ask God to give you a peace about it if it would represent Him well. If you don’t get a peace about it, you have your answer.

There is a balance between not being controlled by people and being responsible to them. As long as we are doing right by God, then that is always our answer.

2. Status updates you post: Not to scare you, but the messages you post could literally be a letter to your followers about Christianity and the heart of God. Most people are turned off by Christianity not because of the Bible, but because of Christians. Many people may never open a Bible, but they may watch a self-described Christian post negative, hateful or curse-word filled rants on their news feeds. We are not perfect, but we certainly don’t need to take to our keyboard every time we want to vent about something. Use your social media platform for good and positivity.

3. Be wise with your inner circle: We have to be real, take time to process and let our hair down. Just be wise who you do it around. You want to keep a tight, close-knit circle around you who is going to understand your heart when you have those moments of venting. Be aware of people in that circle who are not spiritually mature yet or who have an interest in exposing your weakness or using it against you later. Do not let your guard down around them. If the burden seems to heavy to bear and your tempted to let go, remember it’s not just about you, it’s about Christ.

4. Be moderate in public: Be aware of how you much you are drinking and subsequently acting in social settings. With mass media and communication, our “in-the-moment” actions are not restricted to the party or place we are anymore. Photos can be snapped and posted any moment. It’s important for people to see that Christians can have fun without too much alcohol.


I believe many people don’t hold themselves to a high standard because they don’t believe they have an impact. You don’t have to be a celebrity to have impact. The truth is you are called to influence. You emulate Jesus as the light of the world. As His daughter, we are called higher. God has transformed from a pauper in the crowd into a princess with a crown.

Do you have the mindset of a pauper or a princess?

A princess knows she is accountable for her realm of influence and she holds her impact in high regard. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is because those who are faithful with little will be trusted with much. (Luke 16:10)


Dear Father, 

I am sorry for taking my role as your ambassador lightly. I am sorry for thinking less of myself than exactly who I am, your royal daughter. God, please forgive me and wash me clean of small-mindedness and selfishness. Create in me a heart that cares about other people, their walks and their relationships with you. Father, you have changed my life, you are my rock and redeemer, so I never want to cause anyone else to stumble as they are seeking you. When people encounter me, I want them to encounter the kindness of Jesus. Father, please open my eyes to be aware in every situation that I am impacting others. Give me the discernment to know what to post and what not to post on my public profiles. I want to live a life worthy of my calling, so show people the hope of Heaven that is found in Jesus. Amen. 

Royal Influence = The Sparkle Effect

Wonder Words:

May integrity and uprightness preserve me, for I wait for you. Psalm 25:21 ESV

Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the Lord!
Blessed are those who keep his testimonies, who seek him with their whole heart,
who also do no wrong, but walk in his ways! Psalm 119: 1-3 ESV

 So let’s stop condemning each other. Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall. Romans 14:13 NLT

So that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky. Philippians 2:15.

“You are the light of the world–like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden.” Matthew 5:14 NLT

She is clothed with strength and dignity. Proverbs 31:25 NIV

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Check out my devotional Rise Up, Princess!


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