It’s okay to take pride in your design and celebrate your beauty.
Inner beauty will never fade away and noble character is priceless. But that doesn’t mean we should take the conversation to an extreme and let ourselves go.
You may have heard some Christians argue this point with verses like Peter 3:3-4 NKJV:
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
Some may conclude this means we shouldn’t take care of or maintain our outward beauty. But Peter doesn’t say that at all. The verse says do not let your beauty merely or only be outward. When we only focus on external beauty, the imbalance opens the door to vanity, pride and insecurity.
Peter is saying that unfading beauty is in our heart and spirit, so it’s important to focus on adorning our inner beauty along with our outer beauty. It’s always all about balance and motives.
What does that look like? Confidence is holistic. A woman who sparkles has a quiet in confidence and feels good about the way she looks.
A few reasons women hide their beauty:
- Not being a model, cheerleader or beauty queen doesn’t mean you have to take yourself out.
- Having been been preyed upon, abused or misused doesn’t mean you need to hide your beauty in shame.
- If your beauty has made you a target of jealousy, exclusion and bullying among other women, dulling yourself down isn’t serving anyone, especially yourself.
It is not wrong or sinful to be beautiful. It is a gift and God absolutely loves beauty. Song of Solomon 4:7 says,
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling. I see no flaw in you.”
You are worthy of being and feeling beautiful. Maybe you were never told you were beautiful and you don’t feel like beauty is for you. Maybe you think it’s only for certain people.
Whether you have been told you were beautiful in your life or not, God says you are lovely, captivating and flawless. He looks at you adoringly. Everything you do and the relationships you develop should align with what God says about you.
The way we present ourselves communicates a lot about how we feel on the inside. Some women mask their natural beauty with layers of makeup. I have been guilty of it. Some women don’t wear a stitch of makeup because deep down they don’t believe they are worthy of beauty. Both women are trying to hide. I have been both places before.
A woman with the sparkle effect is just as aware of her best physicality as she is of her inner giftings. She knows how to play them up effortlessly and effectively.
When preparing for Miss USA and Miss Universe, I knew I would be up against tall and bodacious glamazonian women. As much as I wanted to wear a nude, beaded, fitted gown with a plunging neckline and high slit, I couldn’t. The heavy fabric, style and color didn’t work on me. I don’t have long enough legs for a slit.
Not everything that looks good on someone else, in the store window or in a magazine is going to look good on you.
You need to rock and wear what compliments you. There is excitement in that because you are discovering and owning what is true for you. And when you do that, your confidence will more likely shine through.
Here is an example of taking an honest assessment of your features:
I have a concaving hole in my breastbone that makes my chest look boney, so I can’t wear V necklines. Sweetheart necklines look best on me. Since I have blue eyes, I tend to wear pink and bronze eyeshadows to make my eyes pop.
Be aware of your body type and dress to accentuate your favorite parts about you. For instance, I naturally have a small waist and wider-set hips, so I tend to wear a lot of A-line dresses. The loose skirt and fitted waist balances each other out and looks nice for any occasion.
What are your favorite features?
Here are some ways to celebrate your divine design:
- Acknowledge your eye color. Eyes are very expressive and windows to our soul. They can be really fun to define with colors to make them pop. Almay has a complete collection for every eye color.
- Lip gloss is because it’s effortlessly pretty and easy to apply and touch up on-the-go. I love and wear NYX butter glosses.
- Blush for rosy cheeks is everything. It makes you come alive and look bright, youthful and glowy.
- You can’t go wrong with a great concealer. I would go as far to say it’s necessary. I use Maybelline’s age rewind concealer under my eyes almost daily unless I’m working out or running errands. You can also use it on any other spots or lesions that bother you. It awakens your face and helps with dark circles or tired looking eyes.
- Maintain a great haircut that is good for your face shape. You want to look fresh and clean all the time and when you don’t have the time, dry shampoo is everything. Batiste is my go-to!
- If you are blessed with curly hair or freckles, those are things that make you stand out…rock them!
- Wash your face thoroughly before bed and wear a daily sunscreen.
- If you struggle with acne, like me, then make an appointment with a dermatologist. Just make sure your insurance covers your visit before you go. Acne is no laughing matter. It is medically referred to as acne vulgaris because it is characterized as a skin disease. If you don’t take care of it now, it could leave permanent scars and discoloration. You are worth it!
The point is to recognize, appreciate and nurture the special beauty marks with which God imprinted. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Take the time to notice how God designed you and explore how you can celebrate those sweet touches. When you flourish in your beauty, it honors the Maker of all things beautiful.
Embracing Your Beauty = The Sparkle Effect
Thank you for making me uniquely. I am sorry for hiding myself because of painfully related things that happened to me or ways I have been treated. Today is a new day and I can’t move forward without forgiving those who made me feel like it was wrong or offensive to be beautiful. Lord, will you please help me to forgive the people Satan used to corrupt and perverse beauty?
Also, please forgive me for idolizing beauty. Today, I am taking beauty off the throne and worshipping you, the Beauty Maker instead. I pray that you will strengthen me to keep my outward adornments in balance with my inner beauty. I know that a gentle and quiet spirit is precious in your site.
As you are working in my character to look more and more like the radiance of Christ, I pray that I will learn to see my beauty through your eyes more and more. I want to be the best version of myself and for people to see You when they see me.
You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. Isaiah 62:3
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30 ESV
And the king will desire your beauty. Since he is your lord, bow to him. Psalm 45:11 ESV
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. Psalm 139:14 ESV
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. Song of Solomon 4:7 ESV
Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young. Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil. Song of Solomon 4:1-3 ESV
Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God shines forth. Psalm 50:2 ESV
And your renown went forth among the nations because of your beauty, for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord God. Ezekiel 16:14 ESV