The Key To Deciding Your Dream

In Inspiration by Kristen Dalton Wolfe5 Comments



1. come to a resolution in the mind as a result of consideration.

In order to make your plans succeed, we have to decide what our dream is. In order to be successful in anything, we have to zero in and get focused on what it is God wants to accomplish through us. Otherwise we will be like a feather in the wind, blowing to the left and right in utter indecisiveness.

Write the vision; make it plain on tablets,
so he may run who reads it.
For still the vision awaits its appointed time;
it hastens to the end—it will not lie.
If it seems slow, wait for it;
it will surely come; it will not delay. Habakkuk 2:2-4

The dream God infused in our hearts has most likely been revealed to us as children.

When I was a little girl, I had many dreams.  I wanted to be a dancer, a broadway star, an author, a singer, an actress, a lawyer, a politician, Miss USA. And secretly to be a princess whisked away to an enchanted kingdom to live happily ever after with prince.

Those aspirations varied based on what season of life I was in, but there were two constants that always stayed the same: to be Miss USA and to marry a prince. I remember constantly doodling my name, “Kristen Dalton, Miss USA” in my notebooks since I was 13 years old.

I remember my mother reading bedtime fairytales and bible stories to us and watching disney princess movies with my sisters. One of my absolute favorite things to do was to go through the beautiful, sparkling costumes in my mother’s big oak chest. I loved twirling around in the living room, running in the big field behind my backyard and tip-toeing my way into the mystery of the forest; all in my mother’s white, flowing dress.  I imagined stories in my head about who I was in another time, another land.  In every story I made up, I was an advocate for justice, a difference maker, a believer in miracles and love.

Watching Miss USA every year, the winner was a role-model to me. She represented strength, perseverance and purpose. Since she was my role-model, I decided I wanted to be a role-model too.

As we go throughout life and grow up, we encounter distractions that lead us from our dreams and goals. As young adults, we suddenly realize that the opinions of others matter to us and that failure is painful. We consciously or subconsciously shift our aspirations to fill our need of proving something to someone or in order to prevent the blow of failing at the thing that matters most to us.

I remember realizing when I was 12 years old, that I wasn’t taken seriously by my teachers and classroom parents because I had blonde hair.  There was this stereotype that since I was blonde and cheerful, I must be dumb. All I wanted was to be smart and be like all the kids who didn’t have to study and still made A’s. I remember feeling so inadequate for not testing into to pre-algebra classes with some of my smart peers in middle school.

I took algebra in 9th grade and remember coming home to do my homework in the first week and being so frustrated that I couldn’t understand it, crying my eyes out, telling myself, “You are so stupid, your brain is so dumb and worthless, you’ll never prove to everyone that you’re smart.” At one point, I actually set a career aspiration to be a neonatologist, just so I would sound smart. Can you relate?

In a lot of ways, those desires to prove myself paid off because it kept me motivated and gave me a nice resume of accomplishments.  But it would have saved a lot of tears, heartache, self-loathing and depression if I would have just loved and accepted the imaginative, creative, musical girl God made me to be and been at total rest with His acceptance alone.

What is it that makes you tick? What is the deep burning desire in your heart that you wish you could do something about? What innate gifts and talents do you have that the world needs?

If you have a passion burning deep within you that has never gone away no matter what the seasons or circumstances are, you already know what your dream is and are acutely aware of the purpose God has stitched in your heart. But if you are wondering at all or feel unclear on what you are called to pour your heart and soul into, there are royal ways for you to discern what that is. As a daughter of the King, God has given you access to wisdom that will lead you to make powerful decisions.

Discern your voice vs. God’s voice

Although you dwell in the kingdom and the kingdom dwells within you, there are several voices that can drown out the voice of Truth. Voices of parents, teachers, peers, siblings, God’s, the enemy’s and our own. While God has placed certain people in our life to guide us, one of the most important skills to develop is the ability to discern God’s voice versus everyone else’s voices, including your own inner thoughts.

Hearing many different opinions and judgements can cause confusion. But 1 Corinthians 14:33 says God is not the author of confusion, but of clarity and peace. When you feel confused or lost, that is not from God. The enemy loves to distract us from our true purpose and destiny because it keeps us right where we are; stuck, complacent and not moving forward. The last thing he wants is for you to use your God-given gifts and talents for kingdom influence.

Learning how to hear, know and feel God’s voice more and more has been one of the most wondrous, rewarding journeys that has proven to make my life more prosperous, protected and wondrous. I feel like every day is a treasure hunt and he is always showing up in sweet, powerful ways when I seek him.

As his daughter, you have the ability to hear and recognize His voice too.

I challenge you to get clear on your dream and to make a joint decision with God about His purpose for your life this week. Then write it down on paper, on a chalkboard, in your journal. Doodle it every day.

Princess Prayer:

My King,

Thank you so  much for being the ultimate dreamer and dreaming me into life. Thank you God that you have a precise purpose for my life and when I trust in you, you will guide me. Lord, please forgive me for doubting you and doubting myself. There have been seasons where I have felt so overlooked and have been distracted by people, circumstances and self-hate. I am sorry for being so afraid of failure that I have settled for mediocrity in order to stay comfortable. God, I believe that you didn’t place a dream in my heart for me to talk myself out of. Even though, there have been detours, I have faith that you will always use my mistakes for your greater glory.
God, I thank you for giving me the mind of Christ. Thank you that when I ask for clarity and vision, I can trust that you will answer me. Since I am your daughter, you speak to me and I can hear you through visions, dreams, scripture and strong convicting feelings. I invite you to open my mind and heart to be receptive to the clarity of your word.

In Jesus name, Amen.

Royal Tools:

“For, “Who can know the LORD’s thoughts? Who knows enough to teach him?” But we understand these things, for we have the mind of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 2:16.

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9

Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

Let love and faithfulness never leave you;
bind them around your neck,
write them on the tablet of your heart.
Then you will win favor and a good name
in the sight of God and man. Proverbs 3:3-24


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  1. Thank you so much for this Kristen! I really needed to read this. I was almost about to give up on my dream because of fear of judgement & failure. Xo

  2. Beautiful! Such an empowering read! Thank you for following your dream and letting His light shine through you to inspire others.

  3. Inspiring message you bring to anyone reading. I can relate to the majority of your experiences, except I’m living the single years..while yearning daily for God to someday bring together my future husband & me. I consciously wasted years looking for that ‘prince’ & only found depression & frustration with God, wondering why me. Nowadays I find myself spending more time in prayer, letting go of the fear that keeps me from appreciating God’s plan. When my friends & I go dancing, He provides a good guy to dance with occasionally that gives me hope that there are good guys out there. And although I never see that guy or any other again, I’ve learned to let it go, knowing that when that day comes, the man won’t leave but will be there for me..God’s best man. Sometimes I second-guess myself into thinking that being a nun or just living the single life could be God’s’s only left me feeling empty & confused. I have some family that don’t agree with me wearing a purity ring, thinking that I’m not being realistic. I strongly desire to be an example of sacrificial love to my future husband & prove to doubters that it can happen to anyone if they put God first & set their mind to it. Am I right? What are your thoughts?

  4. I got here because I was thinking about how I am the daughter of a king. My mom told me that some years ago but because of issues between us I may have scoffed in my heart. I ave always loved to cook and so one time after I got fired I came up with this idea of making packed lunches and delivering them. on the napkins was going to be my logo and a bible verse. last year I got into the catering business finally but I was just about making money and living the high life I was thankful to God but I was in control. now the business looks like its down and out. I just moved into a new house and I have nothing here except for a few appliances my bed and my clothes. for the last few days I have experienced something very profound that has let me know that I am not in charge of my life or the course of it and that is how I’m here. Thank you for this post because God has let me know He hasn’t forgotten the original dream and I’m looking forward to see how He will direct me. May God bless you. Num 6:24-26

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