There is an underlying pressure in our society to be number one. If we’re not the best, the fastest, the most talented, the most beautiful, or the most successful, we’re taught to not feel good about ourselves. We have to work harder. We have to run faster. We must stay ahead. Even if it means hanging with people that aren’t really our friends. We find ourselves constantly questioning, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why am I not fully satisfied & happy?”
I’ve been there and have recently gone through a dark period in my life where I felt like I’d never come out. Every morning turned into a struggle of getting myself out of bed. I felt like I hardly had any friends because the ones I had weren’t there for me; they just used me.
My dream is to be an actress, so I got in a rut of comparing myself to just about every actress. It seemed like I was being hit with every single obstacle possible. With every step forward was five steps back. I couldn’t figure out what the roof to it was. I couldn’t get out of this funk.
One day, I saw a video on Facebook from an actor who also mentors other actors, Dave Peleggi. It was specifically about the poison of comparison. I knew God was telling me to do a session with him.
Upon meeting him, he showed me I was facing obstacles because I was closer to a victory. The devil doesn’t want you to succeed & he will do everything he can to get you off track.
Joel Osteen quoted one time that, “Satan’s purpose is to take from you what God has given you.”
As time continued to pass and I kept doing the homework Dave Peleggi recommended me to do; I was slowly seeing the light again. One of the biggest things I learned is titles are great, but you don’t need a title to do what God has called you to do. We are constantly turning to the wrong things to seek validation or satisfaction. Don’t wait for people to approve you, affirm you, or validate you. You may not be perfect, but God isn’t basing your value on your performance.
He’s looking at your heart and the wonderful creation He made. You have to decide on your own what battles are worth fighting & the people you choose to surround yourself with.
If somebody has a problem with you, as long as you’re being your best, doing what God’s put in your heart, with all due respect, that is their problem, not yours. You can’t control what other’s will think of you so why are you so concerned about it? But you can control how you handle it.
“Sorrow looks back. Worry looks around. Faith looks ahead.” –Beatrice Fallon
You have to change your thinking. You need to see everything that is holding you back as only temporary. Trial didn’t come to stay; it came to pass. Words have creative power. When you speak it, you’re giving life to them. The moment I started speaking positivity instead of negativity; things started looking up again. I made a choice to believe that my obstacles are just stepping stones to take me higher.
“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep a watch over the door of my lips” – Psalm 141:3
One of the most precious things in life that I often take for granted is time. Time is more valuable than money. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. That’s why we should choose carefully the people we spend it with.
Be careful of those who might get jealous of you as well. I had to let go of people in my life that I knew were hindering my goals. Was it hard? Absolutely. It’s even harder when you’re trying to make friends in a new big city, but I knew my time was far more valuable spending it being happy. Now, I am back to my normal self and the devil no longer has control over me.
You have to be careful who you allow in your inner circle. You may have twenty people you call friends, but make sure the two or three you choose to be close believe in you, stick up for you and are with you through thick or thin. Invest your time wisely.
“…making the very most of your time [on earth, recognizing and taking advantage of each opportunity and using it with wisdom and diligence], because the days are [filled with] evil.” –Ephesians 5:16
If you feel like giving up or that you’re trapped in this dark hole and you can’t find a way out; revaluate what you’re doing or the people surrounding you.
Remember that it is only temporary and the enemy is trying to distract you. Don’t be afraid to seek help either because I know I couldn’t have gotten through it without the help of my mentor. Know that You Are Enough, there isn’t anyone else like you because God uniquely created you with a reason and a purpose.
If things are getting tough for you, that’s a good thing because it means you’re getting closer to discovering your purpose on this earth. Make the most every opportunity that comes into your life. Don’t be vague and thoughtless, but live purposefully.