How To Quickly Nip Comparison in the Bud

In Inspiration by Kristen Dalton Wolfe3 Comments


Our society definitely breeds a culture of comparison and competition. The rise of social media, selfies and status updates certainly don’t make it any easier to avoid. It’s natural to question ourselves or for self-doubt to creep in when we see others get the promotion, the bookings, the guy, the ring, the house, the car  and the favor. But what good does it really do to feel bitter or resentful towards someone else or to get down on ourselves? The only person it’s hurting is you.

So how do you deal with it? First of all realize, that there is an endless supply of everything we need. There is more than enough to go around because God is a God of exceeding, infinite abundance. The question is, do you agree with that?

As Christian women, we are really lucky because the Holy Spirit comes to live within us. Then, we have a whole new life full of access to power and a supernatural force that makes life more magical than ever before. But we have to know how to tap into it. The key to tapping into it is realizing that there is only power in agreement. The Spirit has a personality and in order for His presence to grow inside of us, we have to agree with it.

It’s like the story that goes like this:

“I have two wolves barking inside of me. The first wolf is filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, and mostly revenge. The second wolf inside of me is filled with love, kindness, compassion, and mostly forgiveness.”

…said the grandfather.

“Which wolf do you think will win?”

…inquired his grandson.

The grandfather responded…

“Whichever one I feed.”

This is true in the bible too. Amos 3:3 says, “How can two people walk together unless they be agreed?”

Now, in dealing with comparison and competition, you need to know that the personality of the Holy Spirit is abundant and expansive. Therefore, when you agree that the things you want are abundant and expansive, the Holy Spirit will grow more powerful inside of you. Not only are you making a way for God’s glorious riches and abundance to come into your life, you are also creating a space to stay content and joyful.

When you get upset that someone else is getting blessed and start comparing yourself, you are actually empowering the enemy and squelching the Spirit from helping you.

For example, last week I saw a facebook status update that said, “I just booked commercial #3 in one week!”
My old habit would be to start feeling really down about myself, to even get depressed if I hadn’t even been on an audition! It could have had the potential to ruin my whole day. But instead I thought, “That’s so exciting to see how abundant the Holy Spirit is in her life. I feel Him moving in the atmosphere and I say yes to the abundance God wants to give me too!”
When I do that, not only does it keep me content, but it actually empowers the Spirit inside me to grow bigger, my prayers become more powerful and I have created a space for God to follow through on His promises because I am in agreement with Him.

This isn’t wishful thinking either, it’s just aligning yourself with His word and expecting Him to follow through on it.
“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us.” Ephesians 3:20.

The secret is agreeing that there is more than enough to go around, that God will supply according to His glorious riches, and to be content with where you are now.

God will only give you what you can handle. So don’t covet someone else’s blessing. Their blessing would be your burden because you have not been graced to carry it out. Express gratitude that God knows exactly what you need, when you need it. And He is never late in His perfect timing.

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  2. Kristen- Thank you so much for this! I struggle with comparing myself to others on a daily basis, and social media makes it especially difficult to stay content.You have spelled out a clear and easy-to-follow way of dealing with this bad habit. I will definitely remember this and apply it the next time I am tempted to compare!

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