You’re probably told often that it’s the little things that mean the most and yet, they are easily overlooked or taken the wrong way. It’s something I see occur every day and I have been guilty.
People often believe that true happiness and love can be bought. I do not mean actually paying someone to love you or for their happiness in cash. Fixing your hurt with material things, showing your love through “expensive” gifts, or spending quality time with them by taking them to an expensive restaurant only masks the problem. It’s not only the little things in relationships, but it’s also the little things in life that we miss. We are often so focused on achieving that next goal or going after that big dream; we miss the little things during our journey that makes everything meaningful.
The reality of it all is the true definition of the little things in life are taken for granted and that is why we are often unsatisfied.
The question we should ask ourselves is: “Why do we feel the need to constantly focus on the big things or to turn our eyes on material things instead of relationships?” One reason, we crave satisfaction and attention from the public. Social media is both our enemy and our friend in many aspects of life. There isn’t a day that goes by I haven’t accessed social media to seek attention or approval.
It’s one thing when you are sharing an accomplishment to inspire others, promoting yourself professionally or networking. Then there is posting information about certain aspects of your life that should be private, bragging about items that clearly show where you stand financially or posting non-stop selfies because you can, etc. That kind of shameless promotion is where social media becomes your enemy.
You’re setting yourself up to fail before you even have a chance! Why? Because you’re focusing on this fantasy world you’re creating on social media and no longer looking to personal connection to fill those needs. All of this leads to missing out on the little things that are taking place outside social media. Our focus is on eagerly seeing what other people are doing, what they are saying about your new “selfies,” or how jealous someone is of your new bag. None of these things bring you satisfaction and memories to cherish.
The bible verse, “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal. -2 Corinthians 4:18” speaks volume. This verse tells us that the things we see are only temporary and it’s the things we don’t see that will be eternal. Meaning our God in Heaven is eternal, but we can’t see Him. Our faith is unseen, but is eternal. Our families, boyfriend, friends or are temporary. They aren’t going to be on this earth with us forever, and we are never guaranteed tomorrow. It is a good reason to remember what’s really important in life and what we should value most in life.
Since February, I have been blessed with an incredible guy in my life who quickly opened my eyes to many things that have shown me what truly matters in a relationship.
There were some nights when we were in his house just sitting around with candles lit without the disturbance of phones or TV and we talked for hours. These were the moments in our relationship where I learned so much about him and we connected on deeper levels. It taught us both the importance of communication and how taking time out of each day to talk with one another helps prevent us from allowing the other person to feel ignored. Intentional time a priceless act we do and is one of the little things in our relationship that means the most.
We had a date recently in Savannah having the best time just enjoying each other’s company! We enjoyed dinner at our favorite restaurant, watched the sun set on River Street while laughing our tails off and enjoying ice cream. So simple and yet, another memorable date down in the books. These are the moments that I will always look back on and remember.
It’s what help’s us grow together as a couple and makes us strong. Those little moments in life make the biggest impact on us. Realizing just how simple these little things are showed me how much I was valuing the wrong things in relationships.
My uncle once told me, “Pick a man where you know in your heart that you would be the happiest girl in the world regardless if he becomes poor, sick, or crippled and that’s when you know you’ve found a keeper”. It’s such a true statement because life can throw us many curveballs and in a split second, those fancy things or awesome careers can be gone in a split second then all you have is each other. Your family, friends, and significant other are your biggest fans. They will be the ones whom will catch you every time you fall.
That’s why taking time out to write a love letter to show that person how much they mean to you, cooking them dinner, spending quality time with one another to just talk or making sure you’re keeping communications open, and telling them you love them goes a long way. Even give a compliment when noticing little things about the other person getting a new haircut, losing weight, completing a chore, or wearing a new perfume or aftershave can really boost their self-esteem! It’s the very reason that the relationship and we shouldn’t take it for granted.
Relationships aren’t the only things taken for granted. We tend to forget about the little things occurring in our journey towards a dream or goal. It’s so easy to get stressed out about money, getting that grade in class, meeting deadlines or figuring out how to accomplish the next step, etc. It prevents you from taking a step back and noticing the wonders God is doing for you!
Speaking for myself, I have been so guilty. It’s like life just happens within a blink of an eye and 5 years flew by! Remembering how far I have come in life, it blows my mind! One day, I remember thinking how I wish I would have taken a little more time to enjoy meeting certain people or appreciated the struggles to get where I am. If it was easy, it would be so boring with no true emotions in accomplishing the goal.
This bible verse is one of my favorite, “When troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your Faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. -James 1:2-4”.
Next time when you’re pondering at the thought of how to show your significant other how much they mean to you or the next action you need to make to accomplish that goal. Remember what is truly important in life. Take into consideration that you aren’t the only one whose had a rough day or stressing out about something. God brought certain people into your life for a reason and He knew we couldn’t go through life without them. People were created to be loved and things were created to be used. It should never be the other way around. The little things in life are priceless. You will never get a redo of today.