The Three Types of Confidence That Will Change Everything

In Devotions, Inspiration by Kristen Dalton Wolfe2 Comments


Los Angeles is the city of dreams, but it’s also the city of insecurities. Any city can breed insecurities, but for me, moving to LA even after being Miss USA caused me to question my purpose, my work-ethic, my motivation, my worth. Later, I realized it seemed to be the common sentiment among most everyone here. A life of busyness was only leading to emptiness…Why?

I remember when I first started dating Kris. He invited me to parties, events and gatherings with his friends. I would dread walking in because I didn’t feel like I measured up to the level of successes in that room.  I wanted Kris to be proud of me. I wanted to be able to have my own thing to be proud of. I was afraid he would lose interest in me because I wasn’t “moving and shaking” as much as other beautiful, young women in our social group.

I thought, “I might as well end this relationship before he does. I might as well show him and explain all the reasons he shouldn’t want to be with me and beat him to it.”

Self-sabotage is when we take ourselves out before anyone or anything else can.  The thing is, I knew I was a daughter of the King. I knew I was royalty in God’s adopted family. But, during that time, knowing that almost made it worse because I felt I wasn’t producing the fruit that is indicative of royalty.

In our Christian life, there are always deeper levels of growth to dive into. With every season, there are new layers of our identity to unveil and understand.

One season of clarity and peace doesn’t mean we have everything figured out for the next season.

Thankfully, Kris was unmoved by my tearful resistance. He was steadfast and gentle. I remember one conversation over the phone, he said, “You might feel this way about yourself, but that isn’t how God sees you. I see the destiny God has put in you.”

I’m thinking, “How are you not running for the hills right now? Why are you willing to ride out this journey of my unforeseen destiny with me?”

Kris could have been with any high-producing, wealthy, influential woman he wanted, but he was choosing me. He said, “I don’t love you because of what you can bring to the table or because of what you do. I love you because you have the heart of a princess.

This is what King Jesus says to us too. He doesn’t look at our outward appearance, He looks at our heart. We have the heart of His Princess. He has all the power in the world. He is famous-The Holy Bible is the best-selling book in history and yet, He chooses you 🙂

God chooses you all the time. He chooses you when you are curled up on the bathroom floor crying because you feel hopeless. He chooses you when you are self-destructive. God chooses you when you try to sabotage yourself from receiving the love you have longed and prayed for.

When our confidence is rooted in anything other than Christ, our lives will always be one, big, hot mess anytime something goes wrong.

Although I’ve somewhat figured out this thing called confidence through years of prayer, Joyce Meyer podcasts and reading the Bible, I wish I would have known then what I know now.

A lack of self-confidence usually comes from being too focused on ourselves by caring too much about what others think about us.

Jesus Christ is the best person to look at for an example of the kind of confidence we are made to have. Jesus also shows us the power we have as a daughter of God through the life He fully walked in as a Son.

Jesus was able to be so free and confident because His focus was on God and others, not himself. We are called to be Christlike so let’s take a look at what we are called to.

1. Confidence in Christ

I have an inheritance in Christ that trumps the temporary trappings of this world.

You can be confident in taking a leap of faith and doing what the Lord calls you to do even when you don’t feel confident. The Lord has deposited the Holy Spirit within you that has sealed the gift of heaven. That means you already have a slice of heaven within you now that can be tapped into. Ephesians 1:13-14

I never have to strive on my own. My adequacy and sufficiency always comes from Christ alone. 

It’s amazing that all our sufficiency comes from Christ because He is always the same, never wavering. He is always on the throne. We get to have the confidence that we are adequate all the time just because we are God’s daughter and we believe in Christ. 2 Corinthians 3:4-5

I am filled with hope when I believe in what Christ died to give me.

Jesus absolutely is our hope because we know that in Him, we have an abundance of blessings, joy and peace. When we always have hope, we can keep persevering as long as we are alive. Romans 15:13

I am confident that God will bring every good thing in my life to fullness.

Jesus came to fulfill the law and prophecies from the Old Testament. He was the last and final sacrifice that had been described in the book of Isaiah. Now, you get to trust that God will bring every good work to a full completion in you until the day Christ returns. Philippians 1:6

2. Confidence From Christ

I have glorious riches in Christ.

Christ empowers you to be everything you were meant to be. When you tap into Him, He releases contentment and peace over your beloved heart. Philippians 4:19.

The same power lives within me that raised Christ from the dead.

Realize that you can enter any room, answer any call and rise up after any fall because the same power that raised Jesus to life, lives in you. Romans 8:11

I have a Heavenly mindset, the mind of Christ.

You have been given the mind of Christ, which means you can have direct communication with God. Expect miracles and be unfazed by rejection. 1 Corinthians 2:16

I am crowned.

The Lord has crowned you with his endless love and mercy. Nothing you do can change his love for you, his mercies are new every morning. Mercy and love leads to transformation, not condemnation. Psalm 103:2-4 

I have permission to release God’s love and authority when I walk in atmospheres.

You have been unified in Christ which enables you to obliterate fear with confidence, usher peace into a place of chaos and the beauty of hope in realms of hopelessness. Colossians 2:10 

3. Confidence Like Christ:

I can live life unworried and undaunted.

You don’t have to be intimated by people, situations or life when your life in hidden in Christ. 2 Timothy 1:7

I believe and expect miracles to happen.

When Jesus prayed for healing and increase, he didn’t wonder if it would happen or pray really long prayers. He commanded it would be done in a few short words and it was. John 5: 8-9 

I remain unmoved when I could easily get offended.

Almost everywhere Jesus taught, He was also mocked and ridiculed by the elite religious leaders. However he never got offended, reacted out of line or allowed the offense to intimidate or fester inside him. Galatians 1:10 

I am confident enough that I am content not getting recognition from people, as long as I am pleasing God.

Our confidence doesn’t need to be found in the approval or recognition from others, Instagram likes or how many followers we have on social media. As long as we are doing what is pleasing in God’s sight, we can be confident that His applause is all we need. Matthew 6:4-6

I am courageous because I trust God will strengthen me. 

The night Jesus was praying at the Mount of Olives, He asked God to take this destiny away from Him. This task didn’t come easily because Jesus was full human too. He would feel every lashing of the whip and endure 3 fiery and dark days in hell until he was finally raised again. But He trusted God’s perfect plan and courageously allowed the Pharisees to arrest him so His destiny could be fulfilled for the sake of the world. Luke 22:42-43 

I am so confident in God’s protection, that I am free to bless my enemies.

When Jesus was arrested, his disciple Peter cut the ear off of one of the guards in an attempt to defend Him. But even in this moment, Jesus healed the ear back on the guard. Never even in our weakest moment of vulnerability has God forsaken us. Luke 22:51.


When we have the confidence that is in Christ, from Christ and like Christ, we can do all things through Him who strengthens us.

Christlike Confidence = The Sparkle Effect.


Dear Lord,

Thank you for giving me the gift of Christ so that I have an unwavering source of confidence. Lord, I want to only put my confidence and identity in you because you are my real Father, the One who created me and the One who will bring me home. God, thank you for the perfect plan you have for me. Please fill me up with the same trust, courage and faith that Jesus had when He wept that night on the rock at the Mount of Olives. He trusted you so much. He was able to see so much more beyond himself. He had a Godly confidence because He wasn’t focused on himself, He was focused on having a relationship with me one day. Just thinking of this brings me to tears. Why are you so good to me? I love you so much. Please help me to break off self-centeredness so I can have the peace to bless my enemies, remain unmoved by bullies, mean girls or offenders. I want to carry a Christlike confidence everywhere I go no matter what my circumstances are. Thank you for answering prayers that are in alignment with your perfect will. Amen!

Wonder Words:

Jeremiah 17:7-8, 1 John 5:14-15, Philippians 4:13, Hebrews 10:35-36, Hebrews 13:6, Joshua 1:9

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  1. Beautiful article. I can relate to the feeling of walking into a room full of outstanding women and feeling no confidence to be myself.. Jesus has put alot of my insecurities to sleep and im still in progress. Thanks Kristen for this article. Im glad im not alone in my challenges. God bless you with the abundance of heaven. Xoxo

  2. Beautiful piece. i love the way it brings out Christ and knowing this has really opened my eyes in a way i had not thought of. thank you so much

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